30 Aug, 2016

How to Love Again – With No Fear

Someone once asked me: How on earth were you not fearful of dating again, after your divorce? A few reasons: 1. I valued the experience of marriage.  Marriage was the birthplace of so much growth and change for me. I know growth and change can come from ANY of our [...]

25 Aug, 2016

When You Meet Someone Amazing – And Then You Choke!

Have any of you met someone unbelievable, like truly your DREAM guy or girl, and then you just absolutely choke?  Perhaps you begin to not feel comfortable in your own skin; perhaps your personality and openness goes into hiding; perhaps you feel unlovable and not good enough. <breathe, breathe> And [...]

3 Mar, 2016

5 Phrases We Call the Language of Love

Instructions for the Language of Love:  1. Use when trying to face relationship conflict in the healthiest, most peaceful/loving way. 2. Use when trying to communicate something difficult. 3. Use when faced with a partner or child or human being you love whom has completely betrayed you or disappointed you. [...]

25 Feb, 2016

I Have Never Known Such Kindness

I will never stop being amazed by the kindness of this man I get to call my husband. I have never known such kindness. I'm so, so thankful for it every day. Here are some examples while traveling... I realized some of my belongings were not in my bag (in [...]

18 Aug, 2015

In Case Your Partner is Addicted to Porn: How to Heal

Dear Readers, This topic of porn addiction comes up so much. And I say: where else is a better place to discuss it than here? This is one loving and smart community where we attempt to tackle life's problems in the best way. So let's do this. First of all, [...]

7 Apr, 2015

Love Is In The Air: 5 Ideas For Keeping the Spark Alive

I found an old post draft that I wrote with some sexy love tips. It turns out I wrote quite a few! I must say, reading them was making me laugh, so I decided to dust off the cob webs. It's spring-time, and love is in the air. So in [...]

25 Mar, 2015

When We Have Expectations of Those We Love

By Danny I've been thinking about one of the comments received the other day on Mara's "bra post". An anonymous reader commented on how her husband's porn addiction had altered the way she views herself, feeling a greater need to represent herself in a "desired" fashion, even to the point [...]

30 Jan, 2015

A Heart at Peace

By Danny Last week on the post One Key To Developing Compassion for the Offender, somebody had a great question/comment. You can read the full comment here, but it can be summed up as follows: "If we don't call people out on bad, rude, unkind behavior, then I feel like [...]

23 Jan, 2015

One Key To Developing Compassion for the Offender

From Danny How does one go about feeling compassion for someone who just offended, ignored, or betrayed them? The most difficult time to enter into a more loving state of being is in the moment of offense, and for that matter every moment thereafter. And yet, for healing to be [...]

15 Apr, 2014

True Love

(by Danny) I've been reading a beautiful little book by Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh, called "True Love", because it was recommended to me by my 18 year old nephew.  He's been on a little journey of his own for the last few years and has been seeking healing and [...]