Getting personal today…
It turns out that the year 2016 was a hard one for me – a real stinker.
I’ve heard of many that experience a phase like that while working to bring a creation to life.
Though, on top of that, we had many big and unfortunate situations and losses come our way last year. Have you ever felt like when it rains it pours? We were kinda in a South American rainy season there for a bit.
Family, health, real estate, religion, politics…you name it. There were setbacks in so many different areas of life, all at once. And the feeling of loss knocked the wind out of me.
And then there’s the guilt you feel when you realize there are so many people in the world who are suffering in the worst ways imaginable…and it makes the circumstances you face seem almost silly.
But – pain is still pain. No matter what is causing it, it still needs attention. And my hope is that we can all learn how to uncover it, care for it, and heal from it – no matter what we are facing.
4 things gave me glimmers of light through that difficult time:
-Reminding myself (again and again) that I actually didn’t NEED any of my circumstances to unfold in a different way…that I could recover and heal and become anew again, regardless.
-I had the hope that the phase would pass. I had the trust that spring would come – because I had, indeed, tasted spring before (such a gift!).
-I had the hope that this experience could teach me how to surrender on an even deeper level. I do know that process well – and it was comforting to at least have access to it, even if, at times, I wasn’t ready to engage it.
-Danny would say the most comforting words in the world:
“It’s okay. This is LIFE! All is well. I love you, and I accept you just the way you are.”
I am now on the other side of that difficult experience and have been for a few months.
But I just gotta say how much I’m rooting for you in your own challenging times. I can say with all my heart that doing the work when you are able is the greatest gift you could give yourself. Because life truly is nuts. Take advantage of learning, push yourself to learn how to heal, actually put into practice new tools – because we all know that undoubtedly, we will face something difficult. And the more prepared you are, the better. Though – even then, our shadows will come. And we will learn what it means to be human, again – and again. Thank God we’re all in this thing called life together.
(photo taken a few days after the U.S. election, while thinking about how much patriarchy blows. :/ )
P.S. One of our Body+Soul Camp guests got a tattoo of something I said (perhaps the raddest thing that ever happened to me. haha). It says: “My pain is sacred.” Yes, indeed, it is – it’s our greatest teacher, and our greatest unifier.
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