5 Phrases We Call the Language of Love

Instructions for the Language of Love: 

1. Use when trying to face relationship conflict in the healthiest, most peaceful/loving way.
2. Use when trying to communicate something difficult.
3. Use when faced with a partner or child or human being you love whom has completely betrayed you or disappointed you.
4. Use when you want to offer real love and empowerment to a partner, loved one, or child – instead of fear.
5. Use because it’s who you want to be and not because you want someone to change; use it because it’s what you want to offer this world.
6. And use these words for yourself, too, if you find yourself in need of some love. The offering from me to you is here. XO

5 phrases:

“I see you.”
I see your humanity. I see your suffering. I see your past. I see that you are hurting. I see that some sort of pain has brought you here. You are not defined by what happened or is happening to you. I see that you have worth regardless. I see the real you. 

“I trust you.”
I know you will figure this out. You have everything you need to succeed. I’m not worried. You don’t need to be perfect. I trust that even if you make a mistake in this moment, you’ll do your best to learn from it. Even your mistakes will be valuable. You have a lifetime to learn and grow. I know that your life can get better and better.

“I believe in you.”
I’ve seen your good side. I’ve seen what you are capable of. I know that you have a good heart. I know that you have good intentions. I know that you’ll be able to get better and better at being you, at being whole, and at believing in your own worth as well. Your life will unfold in beautiful ways. Good things await you.

“You are going to figure this out.”
Life may be difficult, but life is also full of beauty and potential. I know you’ll be able to uncover more and more of that potential. Perhaps you’ve had a rough patch, but that is the human experience and nothing to worry about. Every single person faces rough patches of some kind, and you, too, can face it with every ounce of inner power that you have. This time may be challenging, but it will bring you more knowledge, more experience, more capabilities, and more compassion. You are going to be better for it!

“It’s ok to make mistakes. I still love you.”
No matter what you’ve done, it doesn’t change the fact that you have worth. I’m not going to judge you. You are worthy of my time, you are worthy of my respect, you are worthy of my love. Even if you disagree with me – even if you reject me – you are deserving of respect – just as every human being is deserving. There is nothing you could do that would change my desire to offer you love and offer you the best of myself.


And there you have it. These words can change your life, I promise you that.

With all my love,


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  1. Anonymous March 3, 2016 at 12:53 pm - Reply

    Wow! I missed these kind of posts! Keep them coming, please!

    • mara March 3, 2016 at 5:59 pm - Reply

      I KNOW! It is my greatest desire to do so. You would laugh to know I have about 450 drafts. Oh my goodness. It is quite a task to get something ready to go – and I have to feel it completely. Adding our retreats has been a new element that both fuels me and distracts me. BUT – we are growing in bits and I have hope that as some growing pains get settled, I'll be able to settle right back into perfecting my 450 drafts. haha. For now, I'm plugging away at it little by little in between growing this endeavor in other ways. Stay tuned for HUGE changes around here coming in a few months.

    • Anonymous March 4, 2016 at 12:41 pm - Reply

      Great news! You've just made our day (and our future joy too…). Looking forward for the next 450! Thank you for doing what you do! We love you both and are so grateful for you!

  2. Sarah March 3, 2016 at 2:40 pm - Reply

    This is just beautiful my friend.

  3. Laura March 3, 2016 at 3:47 pm - Reply

    My boyfriend and I were talking about the language of love just the other day! Can't wait to share these beautiful sentiments with him. Thank you!

  4. Sarah March 3, 2016 at 4:22 pm - Reply

    Are you still taking Brene's living brave semester? I just noticed they added a feature where we could find/follow each other. I think we should all get connected so we can chat there too! Anyone else doing it and we can rally together?

    • mara March 3, 2016 at 5:52 pm - Reply

      Oh, Sarah – you're the coolest to suggest this. We are still working through the classes and are enjoying them!! Though we have gotten behind. I would LOVE it if anyone here joined up together on the forum. That would be amazing!!! Though I know I won't be able to join in for some time. We are preparing to travel right now- and leave for the States in a few days. And then we'll be super occupied due to all our retreats all the way through April. But it would be fun to track some others down then – if anyone is still on the forum. XOXO

  5. Romina Pastorini March 3, 2016 at 5:49 pm - Reply

    I love this post! so beautiful, inspiring, full of love- gah!! happiness all around.

    • mara March 3, 2016 at 5:55 pm - Reply

      Oh good! So glad you liked this. Truly, trying to embody this is what true love, to us, is all about.

  6. Heather March 3, 2016 at 6:58 pm - Reply

    Thank you, it's beautiful to read these words today. I hope to put these into use.

  7. Birdie in DC March 3, 2016 at 10:04 pm - Reply

    great reminders! I love your hat too!

  8. Dimple March 9, 2016 at 5:39 am - Reply

    i love this post its so inspiring 🙂

  9. Anonymous March 26, 2016 at 1:36 am - Reply

    I really needed to read this. All of those five phrases spoke directly to me. I am going through a very tough time right now and I don't know how the hell I am going to make it through so reading that gave me a little hope.
    Thank you Mara!!

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