I thought we could discuss this hotty topic. 🙂
I know this is somewhat unique, but it turns out that Danny and I did not have sex before we got married.
But flirting & giddiness & desire? YES. 🙂 Oh my. haha. Sooo much of it! It was so ridiculously off-the-charts. I can’t deny that I *LOOOVED* every second of our courtship, I loved that we didn’t have sex until our wedding night, I loved the anticipation. I would not have had it any other way.
Not having sex while dating can be so hard, though. In our case, we had a lot of motivations for waiting.
We did have religious traditions at play, but also – aside from religion and just based on experience, I personally loved the idea of focusing on emotional and spiritual connections first and saving the sexual connection for later as I found that sex would get in the way of making good decisions and would make me feel artificially close or bonded with someone.
But I know this is one big wide world, and I know people view this topic very, very differently. I’m so curious what it’s like for others – and whether you like the idea of waiting, or whether it just doesn’t seem necessary or practical or possible. If you had advice for a friend, what would you recommend?