That Feeling When You Want To Tell The Whole World….

(by Danny)

I can still play out in my mind the lovestruck feelings and thoughts that would overtake me after each weekend I spent with Mara. There was such a feeling of the miraculous and the incredulous. There was so much celebration of life when we’d speak or write or sometimes just sit.

You’ve probably read some of the emails by now. Our in-person conversations weren’t much different. We weren’t bonding over past pains, we weren’t commiserating about ways we perceived we’d been wronged.  We weren’t focusing on past, present, or future challenges as some kind of obstacle, but instead relishing in what had been or could be learned both in spite of those challenges, and because of them.

Every time I’d begin the 4 hour trek back to Boston from NYC, it would involve long phone calls to parents, siblings, or friends. When you feel that full of joy, when deep connection is happening despite previous loss, when healing is being experienced in the present moment in such a beautiful way…you want to talk about it.  Better yet, you want to shout it from the rooftops.

That, my friends, is how Mara and I feel just about every time we get off one of these mentor calls, or when we finish with a retreat. You might think I’m overstating things…surely I don’t mean that falling in love with Mara is comparable to speaking with near strangers!

But I do. In part because not much has changed. Each event, each mentor session over Skype, each walk in the park, and each email exchange we’ve had time for…my hope is that every time it is a celebration. Though there is often both sympathy and empathy for those we meet and the challenges they face, there is also excitement for what lies ahead.

One statement I’ve said many times is “I know this is going to sound a little weird, but I’m actually really excited for you. This may very well be a key turning point for you. What might be hard to see right in this moment, is this challenge you face is the very reason you’re going to learn what healing really is, and that it comes in the face of the hardest things we come up against.”

Why would I say that? Because I’ve seen it over and over again, in my own life, in Mara’s life, and in the lives of countless people. So, yeah, I feel like celebrating.

In the past few months, we’ve mentored people who’ve lost a child to miscarriage, or who’ve discovered they were having a child they didn’t expect and didn’t feel ready for, or who’ve struggled knowing they’d not yet met the partner they wanted to have children with. We’ve spent hours with people in the middle of divorce, people wondering about the future of their marriage, and people wanting to make sure they are present to offer the best to their marriage.

And with so many of these wonderful human beings, we’ve had that session where they come back after a homework assignment, telling us stories of incredible triumph. The kind of stuff that makes you want to cry for joy, because somebody just caught a glimpse of what they are capable of. Somebody just experienced serenity in a moment they would have thought it impossible. Somebody discovered that serenity is actually a part of them, something they have control over. Somebody just discovered the power of aligning with Love, or Mercy, or Integrity, or Appreciation.

So what am I shouting from the rooftops today? The same thing I was 6 years ago when I was dating Mara. That peace can be felt right in the middle of your most difficult experiences. That love and compassion can be cultivated even when you feel you’ve been harmed. That both favorable and unfavorable experiences in life can help us understand who we really are, and what we are capable of.

I look forward to the coming weeks. These events we have planned are the best way I could ever imagine spending 10 hours of my day – knowing that someone is going to experience the paradigm shift they need to bring healing and strength and love back into their lives.

I hope to see you there!


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  1. Loraine February 19, 2016 at 10:08 pm - Reply

    As someone who has benefited in a million ways from your mentoring sessions and emails, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for what you are doing!! You are amazing!!
    If you are sitting on the fence about going to a retreat or doing a mentoring session, just do it!! It will be the best money you have ever spent and you will wish you had done it sooner.

    • danny February 19, 2016 at 10:17 pm - Reply

      And yes, Loraine, you are one of the wonderful people I was thinking of that after so little time has a remarkable transformation, paradigm shift, and personal epiphany. Grateful for our time together, and I look forward to expanding our work at the retreat!

  2. Anonymous February 24, 2016 at 1:08 pm - Reply

    hm..interesting. I understand that we as humans can be very skeptical especially when you see that people want to sell something or point out something they want to sell while telling a beautiful experience. Of course this is advertisement and its totally ok to be skeptical.
    Maybe we get bombarded a lot by offers of any kind by e-mail etc. At least i am.

    But i find it really really harsh and unfair to say that this blog (do you even mean this whole blog ? or just this blogpost ? ) is an advertisement.
    You just have to click through the blogarchive to see that this blog is FULL of so much heartwarming and beautiful open shared experience. I think it is really generous and courageous of mara and danny to share so much of their love and what they are experiencing and learning, their passion, what worked for them or what didn't.
    I appreciate it. And i would never take that for granted.

    Maybe you are not attracted to the mentoring or the retreats. I can say that for myself. But isn't that beautiful. There are a lot of offerings on this world and i believe there is room for everyone. i like to think that every one of us is important and i think it is so important to create whatever you really think you should create. In this sense i am grateful that Danny and Mara create their offerings and i am thrilled to see others create their thing. And it makes my heart sing to create mine.
    I think we are all unique and isn't it wonderful that there are so many different ways to live your life and be happy. It makes our life colorful. i am attracted to art therapy and art workshops but at the same time i am just fascinated that there are so many different ways to healing. i LOVE it.

    Anyway i think the archive of this blog is so great if you want to know more about their values or experience. I think its great to read and so heartwarming.

    Lets shine our light of love no matter what, shall we ? I am in.

    love and light to everyone and thank you what you do Mara and Danny,

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