A Post IVF Detox…

Tomorrow morning we leave for the BEACH! This will be our first time on Ecuador’s coast. We signed up for an 8 day retreat where we will do yoga, meditation, and a week long raw juice cleanse/detox. I’m both excited and scared. But mostly I’m thinking it should be amazing to do something like this for my body – especially since I just injected myself with about 200 vials of hormones and infertility drugs over the last year.  🙁  🙁

I’m so grateful Danny will be doing the detox with me. And we’re both grateful we’ll be doing it with the support of about 15 other people. haha. (It seems like it would be hard to do it alone!) I also feel like a spoiled brat to be doing anything like this at all. Living here really has made more things possible, just because the cost of life is so much less. Anyway, I’m very curious to see how our bodies will feel over the next many days. I hope to have some posts next week about how it’s going. (Fingers crossed we have internet.)

Love you all. And overall just feeling so grateful and honored to converse with the incredible community of people here.


P.S. I just got that new hat for the beach! I’ve been wanting a huge sun hat forever. If you ever visit Ecuador, you must go to Homero Ortega in Cuenca for their hand made hats.

P.P.S. You can call me “hangry” for the next 8 days.

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  1. Kim Wencl June 7, 2014 at 1:46 pm - Reply

    Perhaps I missed something along the way but don't you have to work for a living? All you talk about is going here and there, and don't get me wrong it's interesting, but working is never mentioned. What's up with that? It's a good gig if you can get it, but most people can't relate.

    • mara June 8, 2014 at 7:20 pm - Reply

      Kim, the work I do is this blog. It takes up most of my life. I don't make a living at it. But I get enough emails from people who are trying to transform their lives that I have decided for now to continue. Due to my prior lifetime of working long hours in an office non-stop, I have been self funding this effort so far. But I have been exploring ways to change that.

    • Anonymous June 26, 2014 at 4:26 pm - Reply

      Kim, they most certainly do earn some income from the blog (see the many advertisements on the pages), although it may not finance their entire lifestyle. Sponsored posts are a different animal than advertisements. If they choose not to further monetize the blog via sponsored posts or other means via the 'net (which they probably will do inevitably), you can guarantee they will eventually put out a book and/or do motivational speaking engagements. Mara was a sucessful businesswoman, she is not daft, and know's what she is doing. She feels she has a message to share, that people are interested in, and it is her right to earn a living from it if she is able to. I cannot fault her for that. For the record, I agree with you Kim, I stopped reading when it stopped being relatable to me. It's taken on a very Elizabeth Gilbert "priv-lit" vibe. However, I'm sure there are many who enjoy this type of blog, it's just not us 🙂

  2. Amanda June 7, 2014 at 5:56 pm - Reply

    I think it's terribly poor form to enquire about someone's finances – no one knows, nor should they, Danny and Mara's finances and what steps they took to prepare for this experience. Mara, I can't wait to hear about your experience – I'd love to so something like this someday.

  3. Anonymous June 7, 2014 at 6:26 pm - Reply

    Mara said in a post a few months ago that the income from renting out their place in NY would cover all their living expenses in Ecuadore. Sounds like a deal! I'm tempted to do something like this. Hangry!!! So funny!

  4. Anonymous June 7, 2014 at 6:34 pm - Reply

    Hi Mara! This is Stacey Petersen Sherwood from Mesa, AZ! Remember me in 28th ward? I am Aubree's little sister. I hope all goes well in Ecuador

    • mara June 8, 2014 at 7:22 pm - Reply

      Stacey!! Of course I remember you. SO lovely to hear from you. I'll have to tell Janna.

  5. Anonymous June 7, 2014 at 9:46 pm - Reply

    I don't think the person above was rude. It's just that some of the biggest stressors in life are money and working. Most people get to take one vacation a year if they are lucky and anonymous is just saying sometimes these posts are hard to relate to. While I absolutely believe in the message Maura and Danny deliver, sometimes it is hard to put in to practice when you are working ten hour days, get home at six and need to make dinner and then worry about paying bills.

    • mara June 9, 2014 at 4:22 pm - Reply

      Life is full of phases. I am most certainly no stranger to having a life evolve around money and work and bills. I was a bread winner in NYC for over a decade. I can tell you that involved many long hours and an obsession with survival. But the thing is, we all have the potential to change our lives if we want. It may take time and it will definitely take sacrafice. But I believe with every ounce of myself that overtime, we can create the lives we want for ourselves. It just depends on how much we want it.

    • Anonymous June 12, 2014 at 7:01 pm - Reply

      Perhaps I didn't make myself clear. I stated that I do believe in the message you guys deliver, I really do. I guess I am just a weak person because I find being grateful every minute of the day, never thinking a harsh thought or word about anyone or myself, never losing my temper, etc. difficult. I especially find it more difficult when I haven't gotten enough sleep, over committed myself or just plain have a day where I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I have to try every day to be a better person. I don't think that means I don't want it bad enough, I think it means I'm human…..

  6. Anonymous June 8, 2014 at 5:23 am - Reply

    Ok did you mean by an 8 day detox that you will only drink raw juice for eight days????? Please tell me you will be eating some solid food with that as well….That just doesn't seem fun to me, but if that is your thing then I guess go for it.
    And to respond to what was said above, maybe it wasn't said in the best way, but you guys are a little hard to relate to at times for myself at least. But I don't think that is your fault–we all get into our own little bubble and sometimes forget about other people's perspectives.

  7. Anonymous June 9, 2014 at 2:09 am - Reply

    Well, I'm sure Mara and Danny aren't too worried about answering to anybody. They're just living life the best way they know how. Right now, they are in a position to be able to live in another country and not have to work, more power to them. I for one come to this blog *because* I can't relate to living in an exotic country and not having to work, so I'm living vicariously through you 🙂 I love seeing what adventures you're up to at the moment.

    • Anonymous June 9, 2014 at 12:12 pm - Reply

      Exactly. Mara and Danny's lifestyle is aspirational, and not just because they live abroad off of their NY income property. Their approach and attitude toward life are what are most engaging, interesting, and inspiring. I don't know anyone who lives like that, so I "can't relate" to it, but I love it and I want to be able to resonate with it personally. I would agree that some of the posts like "Where did you get that __?" or the cleaning products, etc. are less engaging. They also seem less to the point of sharing your message, Mara and Danny. Yet it's your blog, of course, and especially if these product-centric posts help fund the "transform your life" posts, go for it. They do throw me off a little, though, since they don't always seem to have affiliate links or disclosures that they are commercial partnerships, if they are. Since you're already introducing product content, I'd say at least generate income from it and be clear that you are. Finally, I truly appreciate Mara and Danny's tone and their obvious gratitude for where they are in life. They never share what they're up to as a way of bragging or posturing, and when they get great opportunities, they always acknowledge them as such, almost in a self-deprecating way ("I feel like a spoiled brat") that is above and beyond what's necessary. This is their life and we're all benefiting by looking in on it from the outside. I'm grateful for a glimpse of one side of their fully orbed lives that gives me an idea of how their approach to life works in action.

    • mara June 10, 2014 at 5:27 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much, you two. I feel the same way – I absolutely love to hear about people's lives, even if they aren't exactly the same as mine. I find it so rewarding in more ways than I can count to associate with people who are different than me.

      As for the product posts – I share them because I genuinely love sharing tips and recommendations that I have found to be helpful to my life or ones that I think people would enjoy. For me, I also feel it lightens things up a bit here and there as most of our posts are long and full. As for commercial partnerships, I have done a whopping 5 sponsored posts in almost 3 years (which have always been disclosed)

      This is a longer answer than needed, but I would do more sponsored posts, actually, (even though I would prefer not to). It would be nice to make any amount of a living, if possible. But so far as you can see, there have been very few sponsored opportunities and we have chosen to spend our time on the blog instead of chasing down sponsors, as most of those efforts result in dead ends anyway. So, we are looking for other ways to make this blog sustainable.

  8. Sarah June 9, 2014 at 5:48 am - Reply

    enjoy girl!!

  9. pinkcanuck June 9, 2014 at 3:12 pm - Reply

    I recently started following your blog. I'm surprised by some of the comments above. Hubby and I both work full-time and volunteer several hours per week @ church and in our community, and we have received some negative comments when taking a vacation that requires us to fly somewhere. So I don't think it's the not working full-time piece that makes people feel like they can't relate. I would guess that it's living in another country. Very few Americans vacation outside of the US. When we were in Australia they said that they don't see many Americans…mostly Europeans and Canadians. Anyways, I personally like following a variety of blogs. Ones that relate to me and ones where I get to experience a totally different perspective. I look forward to following your new adventure! All the best to you two.

  10. Daniel Carr June 9, 2014 at 3:20 pm - Reply

    Yikes, 8 days on juice alone sounds like hangry waiting to happen. We actually just posted on hangry last night over at ablogaboutfamily.com. I'm also trying to eat clean after a few days full of party foods, but for me, that meant fresh eggs made with bacon sausage and half and half for breakfast.

    To the comments above, sure, there is some escapism in this blog, but the core principles of love and healing are timeless and can be applied to any situation. I feel like we post on similar principles, but it's less glamorous because, well, we live in Baton Rouge, don't have your eye for fashion, and have to go to the office every day to pay the mortgage. 😉 Keep up the good work, guys!

  11. Lauren June 9, 2014 at 3:20 pm - Reply

    I for one find it completely refreshing and lovely that at a couple would put their own financial advancement on hold to pursue helping other people. I would hope that we would all desire to relate to that! Besides, moving away from a city and friends you love to a completely different country is not without difficulty, probably even some heartache. Thank you Mara and Danny!

    I am in the middle of a three- five day water fast (depending on how long I can make it 🙂 because of ulcerative colitis. We can do it!

    • danny June 9, 2014 at 3:44 pm - Reply

      Thanks Lauren, you practically read our mind.

  12. Robyn June 9, 2014 at 11:07 pm - Reply

    I love that you intentionally make your life beautiful! So many of us are still learning how to live intentionally and I am so inspired by what I read here. My daughter was telling me that she was advising a friend using principles and stories she heard from me that came straight from A Blog About Love and she is thirteen! Thanks for all you do.

    • mara June 10, 2014 at 5:07 pm - Reply

      13!! That is so, so wonderful to hear!! Thank you for writing.

  13. Aubrey June 9, 2014 at 11:56 pm - Reply

    On a different note, where is your scarf and shirt from :)?

    • mara June 10, 2014 at 5:04 pm - Reply

      🙂 The scarf is one of my favorite things. I bought it from FashionABLE, a company that helps to empower women in Africa. I see they currently don't have the exact scarf, but they have several others that look awesome and look similar to the size and thickness of mine. http://livefashionable.com/product-cat/scarves/

      The shirt is from Uniqlo. They tend to have really great button up shirts. Danny got this for me and it's one of the most versatile pieces of clothing I own.

    • Aubrey June 11, 2014 at 7:12 pm - Reply

      Thank you Mara.

      P.S. My dad and his side of the family are Mormon, my 20 year old sister is currently on a mission somewhere in Russia…I, however am currently studying/in process of converting to be Jewish/Judaism 🙂

    • mara June 15, 2014 at 7:12 pm - Reply

      Aubrey, that's amazing!! Sending you love and hoping for light and truth to fill your life as you carry forward in your journey. So inspiring. xo

  14. John K June 10, 2014 at 3:55 am - Reply

    With all due respect, it seems like some readers may be falling for the illusion that if they had more time in their day (or more vacation days) they'd more easily be able to apply the teachings that Danny and Mara write about here. It's simply not true and, ironically, contrary to this blog's core message that we can all choose whether we're happy or sad in life. When Mara experienced a major transformation after 10 years of misery, she wasn't in Ecuador (or anywhere exotic) peacefully pondering life. She was living in NYC, overworking herself, and starving emotionally in a broken relationship. She met someone who taught her these trans-formative principles, but ultimately only Mara could apply them–and she chose to do so, not when it was convenient or more realistic, but in that moment. It is because of that initial choice and her continued perseverance that she's been able to create the life she has now. Mara now has the opportunity to do for others what someone once did for her. How grateful we should be that she chose to give up her other career (and now Danny his) to enrich our lives. My only question is, when are Danny and Mara going to create a course so we can start repaying them for all of their time and effort! Thank you both for choosing to be vulnerable and open with your audience here on the blog. You've already helped so many.

    • mara June 10, 2014 at 5:06 pm - Reply

      John, we can't thank you enough for this comment. You kind of blew us away. Danny saw what you wrote and immediately handed the phone to me to show me. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

    • M June 12, 2014 at 6:35 am - Reply

      I agree with John. I hope some of the people making previous comments read his grateful words.

  15. Kelley August 1, 2014 at 1:02 pm - Reply

    Hi there. I love your hat! I am looking at the link you provided. do you know which version of women's hat you have? I love buying from people that work hard on their goods for sale. Love that you are supporting your community.

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