Love Story: Thank You For Being My Soul Mate

Dear Readers – after some hiatus from the occasional sharing of some of our Love Letters, we’ve decided to try to sift through the 500+ pages of emails to yet again share some of our favorite little tidbits. For those new to the blog and unfamiliar with the previous letters, you can find the first one here, and the entire collection here. At the time of these letters, Danny lived in Boston, and I was in Brooklyn, and we’d been writing each other for a month after a friend suggested we might be a good match for each other. Boy was she ever right! The emails were SOOO good, that we decided to conduct our courtship over email. We rarely, if ever, called. We almost never texted. But we wrote our hearts out every single day. At the time of these letters, we’d only met once and were anxiously awaiting the next weekend when we’d see each other again. For us, those emails are some of our greatest treasures. We hope you enjoy them as well 🙂


Dearest Mara,

I love you, more and more each day.  The more I think about it, the more I tell my friends about it, the more I realize…I couldn’t possibly want anything more in a woman, more specifically in my wife.  Wow, I’m so excited for what’s to come, Mara, and I’m so grateful to have you by my side (well, at least emotionally/ mentally/ spiritually for now – until we can be together in the same city).  My friend that visited this week is increasingly excited for me as the details continue to unfold, and he couldn’t be happier for me.  I’ve said this before, but sometimes when I get prepared to tell people about this woman I’ve been writing for weeks and only met once but we’re totally in love…I’m expecting them to think I’m crazy. But it’s been really great to see that my friends totally respect me and trust me and the decisions that I’m making, and they are genuinely excited for me.

Anyway, just trying to say that I love you. A LOT!!! And I can’t wait to see you!!! It’s so close now. This week will go by faster than we can imagine (especially since work is going to be pretty busy for me this week.)

Have a really good night, love…I will be thinking about you always, hopefully dreaming of you.



Tonight I was with some seriously amazing women. I sat in the car with one friend on the way home and we just had the most wonderful conversation together. She has been struggling with some things and all the pressure she is under. And somehow I was able to share so much with her about trials and how to face them….and well, you know the rest of that story. And she just couldn’t get enough and said over and over that it was meant to be that we spoke and that she needed to hear what I said. Oh, how thankful I am that my experience is not just for me, but for everyone. I try to share it.

And of course, we spoke so much about you! I just love telling people about you and couldn’t be more proud to share all my excitement.

Anyway, could my life be any better??? Could I be more blessed to be on this side of the dark times of my life, the side where I can feel the joy and the happiness of it all, and I can help those in need, and I can truly love, and I can maybe help someone – like others helped me. I have been on the other side before, incapable of feeling any joy, incapable of seeing anything except the despair in front of me. What a blessed woman I am to be where I am today.

And then…………………..YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!! Danny, you are a gift in my life that I can hardly comprehend. I thank God constantly for you. I have already reaped so many blessings in the last couple of years. But you……how could I possibly be rewarded so very handsomely?? How could you be there for me at the end of all this? Um, this is seriously beyond me. I could win the lottery 10 times in a row and still not feel as lucky as I do right now. Oh, I can’t believe I’ve been given so many tools for happiness, which I have finally learned how to use. And wow —- it’s led me to a man like you. I couldn’t be more grateful!!!!

Sweetheart, I love you A LOT. It is the most beautiful feeling in the world. Thank you for wanting me by your side. There is nothing I want more :).

I can’t believe I wrote this all on the iPhone. I have been in the bathtub reading. I am breathing in all the beauty in my life and it just fills me beyond my capacity. You have completely sent me over the edge. I remain so grateful for every moment of my life since we met. (And, happy one month anniversary dear! If I get my way we’ll have many, many more.  :).

I love you. I admire you. I feel you. I long for you. I see myself in you and you in me. These words do not even do my feelings justice.  

Thank you for being my soul mate.   

I love you completely!!!



Though your words may not begin to do justice for the way you feel, I promise you that though the words may be imperfect, I understand them perfectly, for it is how I feel about you as well. I’ve NEVER used the word soul mate to describe my love and appreciation for anyone. But I gladly and confidently use it in regards to you. Thank you!


(These pictures of us were taken on top of The Oslo Opera House in Norway on one very magical, snowy, and romantic night. We had the roof top to ourselves.)

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  1. marlene May 13, 2014 at 12:57 pm - Reply

    Thank you for sharing once again. I haven't had much time to comment recently because work has been crazy, but I have been keeping up and am enjoying reading about Ecuador! Loved the meditation post. I love reading about your love story because it reminds me of my own…and makes me feel good about the world (which has so much negativity in it sometimes).

  2. Katie Marshall May 13, 2014 at 5:17 pm - Reply

    I'm slowly losing my faith in relationships, marriage, etc… but reading your letters reminds me that I can't be sure just yet of how my life will pan out. Maybe something like this will come along, and I have to let myself be open to that! Thank you for sharing 🙂

    • danny May 13, 2014 at 7:05 pm - Reply

      Thanks for sharing Katie. I truly am sorry that whatever you've seen and experienced either personally, or perhaps just what you've seen in the lives of others around you, has caused you to begin to lose faith.

      I hope you hang on. Not because I think that everyone will find the person they deserve and are looking for. Life seems much too complicated to expect that to always be the answer.

      I hope you hang on because it is the hanging on itself, the belief that there truly are good people out there (some will be friends, some will be family, some will be a future spouse, and others will be complete strangers). Being open to that idea allows you to be blessed by any and all of them when they do come into your life.

      Being closed to it builds a cynicism that can ultimately poison even the good relationships you do have, and make you blind to the beauty that will walk into your life from many directions.

      Anyway. I understand just how easy it would be to lose faith. I was tempted to do the same after my first marriage failed. But I decided not to. I decided to remain totally and completely open. These love letters are evidence of that attitude, and it is the openness itself that helped Mara and I form the love we write about. It's possible that had either of us not been open, the other one might have kindly moved along to find someone who was open.

      So, hang on. Keep your faith, and your hope. And enjoy the journey, wherever it leads 🙂

  3. Sarah Brown May 16, 2014 at 1:16 am - Reply

    I love this; thanks for sharing. There is so much potential for this quality of relationship– for everyone…in time…given that it takes so much effort and personal self-sculpting. And of course to find another person versed in charity (or versed in trying to become charity personified) is a feat indeed. I am blessed to have a relationship like this. I can't comprehend that this joy is for the here and now and eternity as well, but I try to bask in it and be grateful…and journal a lot. I too know that to have is to be invited to give. In my personal ministry and walk with humanity, I am strengthened by your examples and by your investment in goodness, despite the thorny cynicism that crops up around the blooms. Keep on. There is enough love for everyone. No one has a monopoly on the good life. Agreed? I hope those who are struggling know that. If a person can know his/her own worth and then use that lens to see others, powerful changes take place, one experience at a time. Thank you both for being evidence of this. Love on!

  4. Anonymous May 16, 2014 at 1:00 pm - Reply

    Amazing letters that inspires other to engage in the chance of love.

  5. iYie July 31, 2014 at 6:42 am - Reply

    Hi Mara,
    the letters,… what can I say?! you are both so romantic and joyfull. I wish I can write as romantic as you to my love 😉
    and the pictures, I really love them. It isromantic vintage looks like. if you dont mind I would like use your pictures in my blog 😉

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