Today a collaborative post I did with Joanna Goddard is up on Cup of Jo.
This is such an honor for me!
I must say, I was so surprised when Joanna’s name popped up in my inbox a few months ago. She wanted to interview me. She had read my post called “Adoption, Stamina, & Desire” and she wanted to know more.
So, we made plans to talk by phone.
I was a bit nervous about the phone call as infertility and adoption are extremely sensitive subjects to so many. Plus, my words would be heard far and wide on Joanna’s blog. Oh my. I didn’t want to botch this one up. I thought of all the women who read her blog – many who are in relationships (or want to be), many who are new mothers (or who want to be someday) – and I hoped that I could say something that might be of benefit to them. I wanted to say anything at all that might give women the hope that life could be good – that we really, really can make it good, no matter what our circumstances are. And that it’s worth it to try.
Because the world needs all of us.
I decided to just talk to Joanna as if she was someone I knew and cared about (this always helps my heart to feel more open and fearless when I do this.) I wanted to see her as the woman, mother, wife, friend, sister that she is.
Doing this helped. I have to say, I felt like our conversation was as real and meaningful as could be.
We talked about love a ton – the best kind of love between mother and child, husband and wife.
I found myself pouring my heart out the way I aspire to.
I found the two of us having a conversation that touched us both. And to me, some parts of our conversation even took my breath away. It wasn’t because of what was said. It was because love really is the most important thing we could ever talk about.
I felt so grateful to connect with someone who does so much for women; a fellow New Yorker; a fellow blogger; a mother of two boys; someone dedicated to gathering women together for conversation- sometimes fun, sometimes heartfelt; and a woman willing to share her story and her voice.
With love, Mara
P.S. Greatest compliment: Joanna told me I should write a book. 🙂
For anyone new here who would like to see more posts about my journey with infertility, here’s a sampler. You can see the rest on the sidebar:
Mother’s Day For An Infertile Woman – I was asked to speak in church on Mother’s Day, I chose to speak about how I found healing even while having that dream unfulfilled.