‘Love Story’ is BACK!

  Photo by Melanie Mauer, NYC, corner of 42nd & 8th Ave.

What happened after we met for the first time on the street corner in NYC?

We drove to Nobu.  (It’s known as the best sushi restaurant in New York)

haha.  I figured we should go all out for the occasion.

So we found parking and then got out of the car to cross 57th St…..and Danny grabbed my hand and held it tight as we crossed the street.  Ohhhhh………that man just knows how to hold hands.  He just does it so naturally and lovingly.  I really was about to die.

  Photo by Melanie Mauer, NYC, 42nd & 8th Ave.

We greeted the host at Nobu and we were just beaming, glowing, and exuding so much happiness that she looked at us amazed.  She wanted to know what special occasion we were celebrating (she assumed it was an engagement – or an anniversary?)  She could definitely tell we were celebrating something of significance.  We laughed and told her that we had just met for the first time 10 minutes ago, but that we were already in love from writing each other letters.  She was GIDDY over us, which was so sweet.  And as she guided us to our table, every guest at the restaurant turned and stared and stared.  I’m telling you, we were a fireworks show.

         Photo by Melanie Mauer, NYC, near Bryant Park

I can’t even remember what we ordered.  The only recollection I have of food was the memory of one piece of sushi.  We just couldn’t keep our eyes off each other.  And we felt completely natural with each other…ahhh.  Our conversation just felt like an extension of our letters.  Oh, we were so dreamy eyed.  It was as if the world around us didn’t exist.

When we walked in to my apartment, it was all sparkly clean.  Of course had he seen it in the days prior, he would not have recognized it.  haha.  My cousin lived with me at the time and we had been cleaning like crazy for days as this place was the Harvey Faircloth headquarters/warehouse/shipping yard.

That first night, Danny and I stayed up until 4:00 am, just talking and getting to know each other more.  It really was so wonderful, tender, and real.  We were able to share in person so many of the sentiments that we had shared by email in the weeks prior.  Danny slept on the couch.  But that was close enough….I just couldn’t believe we were under the same roof.  The nights before I would always lay in my bed reading or writing on my iphone – which was my only connection to him.  And now he was living and breathing and sleeping in the next room!!  I really couldn’t believe my life.

 (We LOVED doing this photo shoot with the talented Melanie Mauer.  We were with her for maybe an hour, but that was long enough to know she’s one of our favorite women. 🙂

–If you’d like, check out other posts from our ‘Love Story’ here.–


P.S.  In case you’re wondering – we didn’t kiss yet!  Before meeting, we’d pretty much set the limit at holding hands.  I know that might sound kind of crazy, but I can’t tell you how wonderful and magical it made the whole weekend!!  It meant there was absolutely no pressure and allowed for every interaction to just be focused on getting to know each other.  It made our time together SO MUCH more meaningful and romantic!  And – it also meant that even the slightest touch or brush of the hands made us so giddy we might as well have been 16 years old on our first date ever.  haha.  We seriously were about to die.  And it helped us know more fully that we had mutual respect for each other and that we really were stepping into something healthy and good, with no awkward expectations.  But best of all, I think it really helped us to develop a real connection and a real bond with each other – oh man, it really was the best way to start out.  We were both so grateful for making such a simple decision.

Anybody else like the idea of not kissing right away?  I mean – I think holding out for the first few weeks – or longer, if you can – is the most romantic thing ever!  What do you think? 

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  1. Lydia September 18, 2012 at 6:35 am - Reply

    Agreed. When I was dating my husband, we held hands for a few weeks before we kissed. It was super romantic and helped me know he was there for me and my mind.

  2. Anonymous September 18, 2012 at 10:27 am - Reply

    First hands. Then hugs. Some days later kisses. And then other kinds of fireworks! : )

  3. Rik September 18, 2012 at 11:17 am - Reply

    DYING over here! 🙂

  4. Ashley Doan September 18, 2012 at 12:19 pm - Reply

    My husband and I's first date was perfection.

    We worked with each other and got to know more of one another over the phone leading up to our first dates. We would talk for hours and hours on the phone and then act like we barely knew each other at work the next day…that was so fun!

    Our first date was so comfortable and we continued talking the whole time. When we were going from our dinner spot to a drinks spot, we were in a parking garage elevator and he grabbed my hand for the first time – fireworks! I couldn't help myself and basically jumped him before we got to the car. Ha! I guess we didn't wait THAT long, but it happened at the perfect time for us and made for a good story too 🙂

  5. Lauren September 18, 2012 at 12:42 pm - Reply

    I just love reading your story, Mara- so sweet! My husband and I were great friends before we started dating and we actually decided to wait until we got married to kiss. It was both hard and rewarding and now, looking back, I wouldn't have done it any other way. Seven years into marriage, I still see kissing him as a huge treat and certainly don't take it for granted 🙂

  6. Melissa September 18, 2012 at 1:08 pm - Reply

    Beautiful story, Mara! And beautiful blog! You and Danny are so inspiring.

    I love the idea of not kissing right away. My husband and I also wrote love letters for months before we actually met. He is from the Netherlands and I am from the USA. Our first, physical meeting was in Amsterdam and we spent days together before we actually kissed. But there was hand holding and sitting/standing very close to one another. 🙂 And like for you, those actions alone made us absolutely giddy! I am actually really grateful for the lack of physicality in the beginning of our relationship. We were able to really get to know each other both mentally and spiritually without the influence of the physical. And when we finally did kiss for the first time, it was absolutely amazing!!

  7. Lydia September 18, 2012 at 2:59 pm - Reply

    Your story is so adorable. Waiting to kiss = super romantic!!

    When my husband and I started dating I was pleasantly surprised to find that he didn't try to kiss me right away. He was so respectful, and really seemed to like me for just me! We decided to wait for a bit before we kissed. It ended up being about a month and a half. It was so romantic, we were head over heels for each other after that! We dated for about 5 more months though before we got engaged just working through things that came up. I love that we built such a solid relationship with each other. Marriage was pure bliss after that!

  8. mara September 18, 2012 at 4:00 pm - Reply

    I am loving all these comments!! SO CUTE.

  9. Maria September 18, 2012 at 4:20 pm - Reply

    wow, amazing that you all waited to kiss, i'm totally inspired!

  10. Lisette September 18, 2012 at 4:38 pm - Reply

    My husband and I started dating each other after we had known each other for eight years. Since we had been friends for so long once we started dating we took things really slow because we did not want to mess anything up. I'll never forget how one night he asked if he could hold my hand or how we did not kiss until we had been dating for a couple months. Oftentimes the anticipation of the moment can be as sweet as the actual moment.

  11. Michelle September 18, 2012 at 4:39 pm - Reply

    I kissed a lot of guys–a lot–in the years before I met my husband, usually before I had known them for very long and sometimes even on the first date. (Yikes.) When I started dating my husband, I sensed there was something different there and felt that it would be best to take our time before we kissed. We managed to wait until about three weeks after we decided upon dating exclusively. While that may not seem like a super long time, it made a big difference for me. It was absolutely the right decision and gave the relationship a weight and an importance that it deserved. I love your Love Story! I hope we get to hear more!

  12. Milly September 18, 2012 at 4:44 pm - Reply

    I just found your blog a few weeks ago and I really love what you are doing! My husband and I met in high school and we dated up until he left on his mission. We decided that his mission was a priority and we didn't want to mess up:), so we decided we would not kiss before his mission- let me tell you, dating the love of your life for 2 years and not kissing was sometimes a challenge;)(Especially when you knew you would be apart for an ADDITIONAL 2 years:)). However, it was totally worth it. I think it really helped us to be closer as a couple because we were friends first. We were close because we loved each other for who we were, and not just because we thought the other was hot;). And of course, I think waiting that long just made that first kiss even more romantic:). (Add to that the fact that we were in the mountains up Provo canyon in the fall-MAGICAL :).

  13. Mindy September 18, 2012 at 6:07 pm - Reply

    Your love story is so sweet and romantic! I love reading your "love story" posts, keep them coming!

  14. Emily September 18, 2012 at 6:31 pm - Reply

    I, too kissed a lot of guys before my husband. Far too many : ( Things were very different with my husband and I. We actually waited to kiss until the week before we got engaged! I still can't believe it. But for us it was a very wise choice. After that it was hard to behave until the wedding night. We did, but it was not easy!

  15. melanie mauer September 18, 2012 at 8:36 pm - Reply

    blushing! grateful that you inspire us all to love more 🙂 xoxo, -melanie-

  16. amy September 19, 2012 at 12:38 pm - Reply

    thank you soooo much for sharing all your knowledge and wisdom!!!!!! xxx

  17. lizzie September 19, 2012 at 5:48 pm - Reply

    Micah didn't kiss me until he proposed. He was worried at first that I would be annoyed at him for wanting to be sure I was THE ONE before he kissed me, but I loved him all the more for it. It definitely set a tone of respect in our relationship . . . and made that first kiss so special.

  18. michelle September 20, 2012 at 2:10 am - Reply

    Love the fireworks of those first simple touches… ah, memories!

    I kissed my share of boys too, but I feel no guilt or sad feelings about it. It was fun, just like it was supposed to be! I met my husband at a party, we hung out a few times and then kissed soon after that. No regrets whatsoever. I'm a passionate person, I've kissed several boys before even having a date, but I did wait until it was an official date and I knew we had real feelings for each other. I respected him, but couldn't wait to plant one on him!

    I adore reading your love story, it's so amazing how it all unfolded. I agree that it was wise to set rules of no physical affection that weekend to let you finally meet and not have that pressure, but man, I don't know how you both did it!

    And I love picturing you two at dinner, just meeting, grinning like lovesick fools (and I mean that as a compliment). Amazing.

  19. Anonymous September 24, 2012 at 10:32 am - Reply

    I prefer being friends first with a guy, but once I know there's romantic chemistry and once I know I'm interested in the guy as more than a friend, I'd never want to wait very long to kiss (1-3 dates). I think it's romantic to wait a bit for sex (1-2 months) to build up the tension and to learn more about each other and other things we can do together physically. Even if I wanted to wait longer – which I don't – I'd be wary of doing so, because I've seen lots of marriages and long-term relationships break up over sexual issues that weren't figured out during dating. Lack of physical chemistry, lack of knowledge of how to please a partner (and lack of willingness to get that knowledge), sexual dysfunction, and a long list of other issues are very serious and can be legitimate deal breakers. Best to know about them before you pledge to be together for the long-term.

  20. Kimberly Martinez September 26, 2012 at 8:29 pm - Reply

    You have a great story! Not to mention your pictures are really beautiful! I thought it was cool that you guys didn't kiss but limited yourself first and got to know each other. Me and my boyfriend share kind of an opposite story, we met and were best friends for years before actually dating! Although we acted like we were already dating and some point over the years.
    After finally getting together though I knew everything about him and he knew about me. All ours flaws, imperfections, and heartaches were laid on the table before anything happened. and he still accepted me. There is just something about reading about other peoples love storys that give me butterflies!
    My blog is at this link – http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=1897574453934578007#allposts
    Its called Love, Hope, Dreams.
    I just got started so there's next to nothing on there but if you'd like to check it out in the future! its there ( :

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